Divine Details

Daddy's Little Girl

Spencer Special Events - Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Often times people have a favorite moment during a wedding. We've heard many say that they love watching the groom's facial expression when he sees his bride for the first time.  That's a good one for sure, but we think a close rival is that special moment when the father of the bride sees his daughter for the first time. We tear up every time.

When our Spencer Special Events couple, Andrea and Taylor, married last June, we couldn't get enough of Andrea's thoughtful tribute to her Daddy and the minutes they shared before she walked down the aisle.  In an embroidered handkerchief (which we're pretty sure he'll keep forever!) he read this:

Andrea's father's expression, captured by Scott Hopkins Photography, was priceless.

It's been said that a woman falls in love with her father first, and all men after him will have to measure up. What a tall drink of water for many men! We can't imagine how difficult it would be to "give your daughter away" but think the feeling is summed up by country singer, Blake Shelton, pretty well in the hit song, "I loved her first."

What will you dance to with your father?

To all those daddy's little girls out there, this one is for you!

Small wedding details not to forget!

Spencer Special Events - Tuesday, September 10, 2013

When you are planning a wedding, you can be so focused on the big things like a dynamite venue, a perfect photographer, a scrumptious menu, and the gown of your dreams, that sometimes the very little details are last on your mind.  At Spencer Special Events, the details are our favorite part!  Here are four small details that shouldn't be overlooked.

1.  A pretty dress hanger! You spend thousands of dollars on a dream wedding gown and you want your photographer to capture that gorgeous beauty hanging before you put it on. For this reason, don't overlook the importance of a pretty hanger! There are a variety of options from "Bride", your new last name, and "Mrs." -- just be sure you don't have an ugly wire hanger or get stuck grabbing one from the hotel closet.

2.  Making it kid-friendly (if children are invited!) If you are having kids attend the wedding, make sure you have a game plan for those precious kiddos.   At Spencer Special Events, we like to have something for the kids during the ceremony like crayons and coloring books.  At the reception during speeches, skip a flower in their napkin and add a lollipop that coordinates with your design. You're sure to be a hit!  If you are having a kid-friendly wedding, don't forget to make it kid-friendly!

3. A special cake knife or toasting flutes. Often times these are passed down from generation to generation, or received as a wedding gift.   Give them to us before the big day and we will make sure they are waiting for you at your cake table.

4. A way to remember family members that can't be with you! Old family photos in elegant frames around the cocktail hour or reception can be a sentimental way to have your grandparents or loved ones with you on your big day.

We at Spencer Special Events will make sure that all of your details are covered and perfectly placed. It really is our favorite part (aside from working with our wonderful brides and their sweet families!)

Romantic Honeymoon Destinations

Spencer Special Events - Friday, September 06, 2013

After the big wedding weekend, you need a fabulous getaway with your hubby! We have traveled the globe (okay, scoured Travel & Leisure and Zagat…) to bring you our top 5 honeymoon picks. Are your bags backed? Let’s go! From the Maldives to the Red Rocks of Sedona, a safari in Kenya to the quiet island in the Caribbean, to the most romantic city in the world, transport yourself away from the wedding stress and dream.

Find these fabulous, romantic resorts here! 

At Spencer Special Events, we often like to remind our couples that when the wedding stress gets to be too much, it's important to focus on your future husband, close your eyes and picture the end result (and the honeymoon!). 

Wedding Day Tipping

Spencer Special Events - Wednesday, September 04, 2013

When you (or your VERY generous folks) are spending big bucks on your wedding, sometimes the last thing on your mind is tipping your vendors. Who should you tip and what's already covered in your contracts? At Spencer Special Events, we tell all our brides and families that unless a service charge is outlined in your agreement, tipping is completely optional, except for a few places. But not to stress, we are certainly there to help guide you!

You should feel free to tip anyone that exceeds your expectations (after all that is what tipping is all about!), but as a rule of thumb you tip associates and not direct business owners. It is never expected but a true token of appreciation for a job well done.

Follow these simple guidelines for tipping in these categories:

  • Wedding hair stylist and make-up artist: tip 15-20%, just as you would in a salon
  • Wedding officiant. If you make a donation to the church for their work, tip $100-$150 for their direct time and service.
  • Delivery personnel. A few small tips ($10-$20 each) for welcome bag delivery, florists, and event rentals (particularly those doing a lot of grunt work) are appreciated.
  • Ceremony musicians. Usually included in your contract but if they went above and beyond by writing something special for you or learning a new piece just for your wedding day, $20-50 per musician is considered appropriate, or 15% of the total bill.
  • Reception Entertainment. Usually covered in your contract but if they go above and beyond, $20 per member is about standard.
  • Wait staff and bartenders is an area that's usually covered. Check your contract here but if it is not covered, it’s usually 10% of the total liquor bill to be split among them.
  • Service Staff: $20 and up each (distributed by the catering manager or maitre d’)
  • Wedding transportation. Usually included in your contract, if not, tip 10%-15% of the total cost.
  • Valet or parking attendants: $1 to $2 per car; 15 percent for valet parking
  • Catering manager: $200+ or a personal gift
  • Chef: $100+
  • Coat check attendants: $1 to $2 per guest
  • Bathroom attendants: $1 to $2 per guest
  • Maitre d’hotel or Banquet Captain: 1 to 3 percent of food and beverage fees
  • Photographer/videographer: If you’re paying a flat fee with no overtime, $100

Is this list overwhelming? Our team at Spencer Special Events can happily coordinate all of this for you ahead of time AND distribute gratuities as you see fit.

Don’t forget a hand written thank you note also goes a LONG way with vendors that you are working with. Often they will use it as testimonials for social media or on their website. Referrals are the best "tip." And the fact that you are so pleased with the product or service delivered that you shout it from the roof tops (or Facebook and Twitter!) is simply priceless and what many vendors in this business rely on.

Lastly, remember that a smiling, kind, grateful, and appreciative bride or groom is a HUGE "tip" for any vendor since it is always rewarding to work with someone who is appreciative of your service.

Though it's a tricky subject, we hope we've answered some of your wedding day tipping questions.